It depends on an individuals circumstances and if they have a good income and right support in place to have it “all”. Childcare largely falls upon the shoulders of a mother instead of a father. If it is a single parent family, again it is the mother who has full responsibility of the child. Irrespective of where we are on the career ladder someone always has to “give” and usually it is the mother.
Personally I think we can have it all.... if we have realistic expectations of what 'all' is.
We may want our perfect home (like the pics in the magazines), and our kids always well-behaved, a successful career, a healthy bank balance, and a full night's sleep each night, and a social life, and date nights with your partner, time to volunteer, laundry done promptly...... every week! THAT is not realistic....
...some things will have to give!
Or we accept that you can have it all- but not all at the same time! :)
It is great that you feel that Allah is all merciful and does not judge us harshly. We cannot stop people from doing that, so long as you are at peace with what you do, you can try your best and for those who care for you will appreciate all you are doing. Dont worry about the others, as they dont count!
You can never satisfy all so just do what you can cope with, but never too much you can handle. Look after yourself on the journey!
i wish i can be superwomen then i can do everything but if i do everything there will also be dissatisfaction expressed from someone! do i make peace and do my best and offer little bit to all. or do i put myself first and be pereceived as selfish. all this is society! Dunya! who am i to judge, who are you to judge me. Allah, is testing us all in his own way and my test will be different from your. it's a balance! i can't have it all because everything i have i will want more, i cannot have nothing, because i have Allah! so is it time and commitment between Deen and Dunya or family and work - if my intention is good, surely Allah will be pleased with me! let the 'judges' judge. My judge is merciful and forgiving
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